Play Party Guidelines
In partnership with The Threshold Society
In order to attend an Obsidian play party, participants must RSVP with answers to the below questions. From there we decide who receives the party information.
1. Name or Playname
2. Age (18+ only)
3. Gender Identity
4. Sexual Orientation
5. Race/Ethnicity
Obsidian has Dungeon Monitors. These are knowledgeable participants who elect to stay alert and make themselves available should any issues arise. They help maintain the flow of the dungeon and will generally not interrupt a scene unless they hear a safe word being ignored or need to request something from you to maintain that flow.
If/when conflict occurs at Obsidian, there will be an effort at conflict resolution with the Obsidian leadership team and affected parties. In-person resolution is favored above all else. Resolutions will center around education, trust, and self-empowerment. All complaints will be listened to and taken seriously.
Obsidian’s dungeon rules are as follows:
Consent is of the utmost importance
Be sure to negotiate before engaging in any sort of play
Tops: make several in-scene check-ins
Bottoms: advocate for yourself and your needs always
Establish and use your safewords
Inebriation during play will not be tolerated for safety reasons
Our space with Threshold is a sober one, we require that all attendees respect this fact.
You will not be allowed in if you are visibly drunk/high
Don’t forget the aftercare
Take care of each other, be kind
This must include tops
Clean any and all equipment used in a scene with the supplies provided
Respect each other’s privacy
No phones allowed inside the dungeon
If you must use your phone, you are required to step out into the patio
Do not “out” people if you meet in public
Do not speak in details about the event outside of the event
Respect each other’s space
While we encourage voyeurism, do not get too close to or in any way interfere with a scene in progress
Do not assume pronouns
Ask, don’t guess
Threshold’s dungeon rules are as follows:
Nudity is not allowed in the patio
No smoking/vaping allowed on the premises
No cellphone usage inside
No genital to genital, or oral to genital contact
Voyeurism is encouraged, but please do not enter a room unless invited
You can enjoy the scene from the door
No shoes on any furniture or mats
No breathplay
Manual asphyxiation or strangling scenes (where the bottom’s neck is pressed, crushed, or otherwise compressed) are prohibited due to potentially dangerous complications. Even restricted breathing scenes (such as a hand over a mouth and/or nose) are not allowed. This includes restricting blood flow and applying pressure to the diaphragm to restrict breathing.
No Scat play or Enema play